As I’ve been sharing the details of my friends and follower clean up, it’s been fascinating to get the support and feedback from my tribe. Generally everyone is not only for it, but inspired by it and motivated to take their own action. If you are or have, please feel free to comment on the blog or shoot me an email. I genuinely want to hear from you.
I did receive one scathing venom-laden nasty-gram in the form of a very long FB email. In times past I would have taken it very much to heart, tortured myself over what it meant, wondered how I needed to be different, yada, yada, yada. Today, I read it, let it pass by me and tapped delete. I am who I am. You are who you are. Don’t be swayed by one person or even a dozen people’s opinions. One of my truly favorite expressions is “what you think of me is none of my business.” That gem is from Wayne Dyer, one of my all time favorites in personal development.
Your greatest strength is in knowing who you are, what you stand for, what is important to you, and what your gifts and talents are. When you waiver or bow to popular opinion (or heck even unpopular opinion) you lose yourself and you become like a flag in the wind, changing your direction based on the wind, regardless of your true colors and pattern.
This means when you are presented with a professional opportunity that isn’t within your scope and doesn’t interest you as a challenge, but you take it on because you “need” it or “think” you should, you are going to lose yourself. I guarantee it. I’ve done it.
This means that when you are flexible in what you stand for, adapting to suit the messenger, you stand for naught. You have lost yourself and your value. Go get it back, stand in your strength.
No matter what you do there will always be people willing to jump up to disagree, argue, put you down, complain, heckle, distract, and generally create ill will and chaos. You can listen and get caught up or you can put healthy blinders on to that kind of angst and go forth in your strength, standing in your you.
Stop doubting yourself and know the difference you make and can make. Inevitably when I coach and mentor my clients will say “I was going to do that, but stopped,” “or I wondered about doing that, but wasn’t sure.” Well here is your official permission. Go and do it, stand in your strength and let those who aren’t a part of that just roll right past you.