Okay, one of my big resolutions was not to be attached to the outcome. I think I have this sort of mastered on the business front, but gotta say this is a tough one on the personal side. I know on a cognitive level that I can’t control how someone behaves or how they feel, but it is still a struggle. I know I can’t make everyone happy all of the time, because then no one is happy or I’m not happy. So how do I strike a balance??
It is like the lesson learned recently in a seminar with Alan Weiss. He is a top notch speaker and consultant and says he does ellicit feedback and never reads it. The reason is that someone always thinks they could have done it better, or they are having a bad day, or they just don’t want to be there and they’ll put it in their comments. I know this is true as whenever I do ellicit feed back I’ll get 20 great thoughts and one negative and all I can hang onto is the negative and think how I’d have done it better, when 20 others loved it! Go figure . . . . MG
