Do you find yourself stopping your life because of the stories you’ve lived? You know what I mean . . .
- I was abused as a child.
- My mother loved my sister better (really she did.)
- I’ve always had allergies, asthma, bad knees (you name it, you claim it)
- I’m not athletic.
- I can’t ski (or run, or bike, or hike, or whatever)
- My parents divorced so I’ll divorce
Okay you see what I mean now. I’m not minimizing your stuff, a lot of our stories are really painful and represent stuff that happened to us at an age where we may have had little or no control over it. Here is what we do have control over, our story going forward. That’s right, you heard me! You lived your story, you’ve told your story (likely a gazillion times), and now get over your story to get on with your life!
Your often unwitting storytelling about yourself is sabotaging your way forward. Every time you dish the old story you reinforce the pattern created and foster the limitations that story represents. You can’t move forward as long as you haul all the old junk, you have to pack it up, let it go and move forward lighter and brighter.
It’s a choice, it isn’t necessarily easy but it is necessary and in your case, it might even be life saving, to let go of the story that you have been telling for years and move into a place in your life where you are writing a new story every day. You are in charge of your story from this moment on. Stop beating yourself up for the old story, you likely may not have written parts of it, someone else wrote it on you. But today, you are in charge. Claim your story, claim your future.
I used to say I wasn’t athletic, and sometimes still do, yet I’ve bungee jumped, skydived, tandem hang glided, para sailed, water skied and more. Those aren’t things that a couch potatoe does!
I used to say that weight issues ran in my family, it was genetic. I even made the excuse or it was made for me, that it was baby fat. Well, news flash, I’ve never had a baby, and this statement was used when I was in my twenties, way past my baby stage. What excuses are you making?
I used to say that my mother loved my sister better, really she told me that. So what? You know what it did for me? It was a gift, it made me awesomely independent and gave me the wisdom to know that my sister needed my mom more than I did. That’s cool, no harm, no foul.
I let go of old patterns and old stories all the time, there are a ton of them we each carry around. Moving forward means letting go, and writing your life from the moment you are in forward. Stop allowing your past to define you and instead live into your unlimited today and your possibility laden tomorrow.
CHALLENGE: What old story can you rid yourself of today to reframe your today in an unlimited way and generate juice to write your story forward? Tell me in comments here. I am genuinely interested and want to support you in this way forward.