Getting What You Want; Wanting What You Have

Life is funny sometimes, like the song says, we may not get what we want, but we do seem to get what we need. Our focus is everything. What we focus on truly shows up in our lives. So when we start to complain, as so many do, that we aren’t getting what we want, maybe it is not the universe we should be pointing the finger at, but instead looking inward at our own interiors and the design we have created. The power of the mind is everything, and what we think about expands into the reality of our lives. What is it you are manifesting in your life that you don’t want? And the reason can be as simple as you are focusing on NOT wanting it! You see the universe doesn’t hear NOT, so it gives you what you don’t want in addition to all else asked for. The key is to learn to redirect ourselves from a positive viewpoint. No, this isn’t Pollyanna talk at all. But I know too often that when I ask clients what they want, they have an easier time telling me what they don’t want. Why not re-examine our lives with the light on and look for what we do want and focus exclusively on that. For example, if you want to be fit and healthy focus on that, instead of NOT being fat and unhealthy. If you want to have abundance and prosperity, focus on those elements, instead of NOT being poor and in debt.

In tandem with getting really clear and positive in your focus, it is essential to be gracious for what shows up. An attitude of gratitude, as old as it sounds, is one of the keys to a happy life. When we put our attention on the abundance of life, when we act in a generous and thankful manner, those things that make our lives so will continue to show up. When they don’t, it is best to look within first for change, and evaluate our own interiors. There are countless examples of this in the world and more importantly in our own lives if we just look. Too often we choose to operate with blinders on, and spend our days blaming rather stepping up, taking responsibility and determining a new and better path. Sometimes what we need is the wake up call that keeps on ringing until we pick it up and really understand our lives are of our own design, not anyone else’s and by becoming our own architect, designer, builder, and decorator, we get to celebrate each and every day!