I’ve gotten to a neat place in my life, I like me. Do you like you? I asked a great friend recently, a lady that I consider to be a singularly terrific person, wildly successful entrepreneur, generous friend, loving daughter and sister, gracious hostess and much more, and she said “no.” I was floored. I had another instance later in the same week with someone that protested how he couldn’t stand women with low self esteem yet, several times in our conversation, he confessed that he was just a “boring” guy. Hmm, and this isn’t low self esteem? Wow.
Now, I know that some of you will resist what I am about to share and request, but try it anyway. Stand in front of the mirror at least twice a day and say to that amazing reflection, “I Like You.” I’d have you start out full tilt with “I love you,” but some of you are going to have a tough time with just liking you. You’ll giggle, blush, feel silly, shake your head in disbelief, but do it anyway. I’d also like you to create a list of at least 10 reasons you are likeable. No one else gets to see this, just you. Repeat it twice a day. I guarantee that you will feel better, warmer toward you, and more confident in 30 days if you truly stick to this regimen. You will also find yourself taking better care of you and learning the art of being grateful for compliments instead of denying them as so many do.
The next time someone says, “you look great!” Say thank you, not “no I don’t” or “I’m feeling fat,” or “in this old thing?” Just be gracious. You deserve it, accept it, and enjoy it. Give yourself a holiday from low self esteem and the demons it brings. You can always go back to it in January!!