A problem is simply a label you have applied to something in your life. I am fond of correcting that word choice into “a solution waiting to happen.” In actuality, a problem is only created by the way you frame any given situation or event.
Drama Isn’t PrettyWhen I was younger, I had a lot of problems and created a lot of drama in my life. I loaded my life with land mines that regularly exploded. It was very uncomfortable, unproductive, and dramatic. When I began my path to personal development, I had to accept that these were my land mines, no one else’s. I had to give up my victim thinking and take responsibility for my life, my choices, and my outcomes. It wasn’t easy, it was simple.
It took time to unlearn my old habits and patterns of behavior and to establish new and healthier patterns that serve me today. I put myself on a steady diet of personal development books, audio recordings (yes, cassette tapes back in those days), and the rare live event. The path was far from perfect, the journey laden with detours of drama and side trips of self pity. Today, I take an optimistic view of life and operate from my sunny side (at least most of the time!)
I had to learn to reframe my “problems” in a way that created a solution or gave me the opportunity to rise above until the problem simply didn’t exist anymore. Problems are often created from moments of drama that if ignored disappear. It is when we focus on these that they grow into something bigger and more negative. Problems that don’t disappear are waiting for a solution that can be applied drama-free.
Anytime a problem or challenge arrives in your life, acknowledge that you are the one who has labeled it. To another it might not appear to be
a problem at all. In fact, every problem is just a lesson in disguise. It is up to you to solve it or let it go. Only you can experience it the way you’ve perceived it. And only you can correct it to your satisfaction.
Take ACTION:
1. Write down your number one “problem” on an index card.
2. Give three reasons it is a “problem” for you.
3. Record the necessary action steps to remove or resolve this “problem.” Go do it!
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A problem is just a learning opportunity in disguise. #move-it-forward #motivation #quote @melissagalt
Oh and I’d love to hear about how you’ve eliminated the drama in your life and work! COMMENT BELOW.
Melissa,
Having met you face to face a few years ago in Chicago, I can confirm how well your handling of drama is accomplished. The energy you devoted to a receptive audience was seriously impressive and your props (I remember crazy footwear and word play on the FUNctionality of family life) memorable.
I often work with performers, who are simultaneously wanted for their celebrity and scorned for their drama. Somehow ‘Keep on the SUNNY SIDE of Life’ reminds me of ‘The Happiness of Pursuit’. There is a great deal we can learn from your resilience and continued perseverance.
Sun salutations to you!
Katrina,
Many thanks for your kind comment. I appreciate you and my bounce back factor grows daily!
Hugs,
Melissa
Hi Melissa,
I found this blog most pertinent to the environment I often find myself in with friends and family. I often find I have to reframe not only my own view but attempt to deliver a better one to others around me.
I have to admit it’s not always an easy task doing so. As a trauma survivor I’m very aware of establishing new perceptions and associated behaviour but find it challenging in a world that sensationalises drama.
It’s great to see someone being honest about the challenges of their journey.
Much appreciated.
John,
Delighted to know that you are already practicing reframing and understand the value so well.
You are totally correct, it isn’t always easy to do, particularly as a trauma survivor. I applaud your efforts.
Hugs, Melissa
I also believe that we need to throw out the drama in our lives and concentrate on the more positive things in our life. Also let us take action and work towards resolving the not so good issues in our lives.
Thanks Lynne,
It can be hard to toss out the drama which is why I reframe it . . .ultimately it disappears. Reframing is that step in the gap.
Hugs,
Melissa
Hi Melissa,
Great post! When we discover that everything we say and do has an effect on our environment it can be pretty humbling to say the least. Life on this planet is about solving problems. When I began understanding that one cannot solve a problem if they are the problem things began to shift. Similar to what you were saying about taking responsibility for our words, actions I began to recognize that I was the constant in every situation. It no longer became about life happening to me rather more about me orchestrating life.
Thank you Carol,
You are so right, healing and a drama-free life starts with each of us! Glad you are on board.
Hugs,
Melissa
Another tip I use is from Edwene Gaines: “Forgive everyone, everything – especially yourself.”
I find much of my drama stems from holding on to old hurts and perceived “wrongs”.
Thanks for a great post!
Thanks Darlene,
Yes, I’m a fan of Edwene Gaines and have considered attending a workshop in Alabama. My favorite of hers is “The Four Laws of Spiritual Prosperity.”
Hugs, Melissa